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I don’t know if this is toxic

I don’t know if this is toxic

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winterwoods

I didn't even need to read the whole thing. Run. Run fast and far. Tell him goodbye and block him. Do not meet him, do not take this any further. If he's this controlling now, how do you think he'll be in a year? Five? Get out of there now.


It_means_everything

Omg girl, I could sew a whole outfit with all of those red flags. Nope, you're not being paranoid. He is being verbally abusive, controlling, and manipulative. I don't know if you want to try and have a serious discussion with him about this. Personally I'd cut him out, this is too much. Especially considering you've never met in person.


softkitty33

I don’t know if I can have a discussion with him. He might say he gets it and that he’ll change (which won’t happen) but his fat ego won’t let him do it. I am planning on cutting him out but I feel like I owe him an explanation. I don’t want to leave him in the dark. Or maybe I am stupid for caring so much


It_means_everything

No, you're not. I think that is an excellent idea, because being ghosted sucks. You seem very mature and thoughtful person. I wish you the best of luck!